Marriage, even under perfect conditions, is an imperfect relation. So does it matter if you web by your choice or by parents’ choice? Yes, it does! To the young generation, it does matter if they choose to marry after love or love after marriage. The debate becomes all the more interesting as we share some interesting perspectives on the same.
“Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.” That’s what Franz Schubert said. Indeed, this is one strong reason in favour of Love marriage. Love marriage couple turns out to be friendly with each other. Owing to their prior experience about each other’s nature and behavior, they have a comfort zone amongst themselves. They are more like friends and such marriage often turn out more successful than the rest.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” Now this is what Mignon McLaughlin says and going by her words, Arranged Marriage seems to be a better option. There is a kind of surprise element associated with arranged Marriage. Each day after your marriage is a day to discover something new about your partner. You fall in love with each other gradually and may be more times than one. No wonder, the love blooms slowly in arranged marriage and its fragrance stays for long.
And then there is another school of thought that says, Love may be blind but marriage is a real eye-opener! This is the bitter truth of life. Law of diminishing marginal utility applies in love and relationships as well. So the initial love and passion disappears as the marital responsibilities take over.
But that could happen in arranged marriage as well. Initial interest in each other’s differences and diversities fades away way too sooner. And then, people regret not marrying someone of their choice who understood them better and who was much more like them!
However one thing is common in both type of marriages – all couples have differences and they fight with each other over big and small things. So should we assume that love fades away after marriage and it does not matter if you marry by choice or chance? Or should we conclude that choosing one’s own partner is the biggest freedom and we all should exercise it as the decision impacts our whole life?
This debate seems to continue since ages and may never have a perfect decision in any party’s favour. We look forward to the readers and patrons of London Darbar to share their views on the same.
And do not forget, you may have love marriage or arranged one, let London Darbar take care of all arrangements related to wedding functions and reception party.
“Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.” That’s what Franz Schubert said. Indeed, this is one strong reason in favour of Love marriage. Love marriage couple turns out to be friendly with each other. Owing to their prior experience about each other’s nature and behavior, they have a comfort zone amongst themselves. They are more like friends and such marriage often turn out more successful than the rest.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” Now this is what Mignon McLaughlin says and going by her words, Arranged Marriage seems to be a better option. There is a kind of surprise element associated with arranged Marriage. Each day after your marriage is a day to discover something new about your partner. You fall in love with each other gradually and may be more times than one. No wonder, the love blooms slowly in arranged marriage and its fragrance stays for long.
And then there is another school of thought that says, Love may be blind but marriage is a real eye-opener! This is the bitter truth of life. Law of diminishing marginal utility applies in love and relationships as well. So the initial love and passion disappears as the marital responsibilities take over.
But that could happen in arranged marriage as well. Initial interest in each other’s differences and diversities fades away way too sooner. And then, people regret not marrying someone of their choice who understood them better and who was much more like them!
However one thing is common in both type of marriages – all couples have differences and they fight with each other over big and small things. So should we assume that love fades away after marriage and it does not matter if you marry by choice or chance? Or should we conclude that choosing one’s own partner is the biggest freedom and we all should exercise it as the decision impacts our whole life?
This debate seems to continue since ages and may never have a perfect decision in any party’s favour. We look forward to the readers and patrons of London Darbar to share their views on the same.
And do not forget, you may have love marriage or arranged one, let London Darbar take care of all arrangements related to wedding functions and reception party.
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